Courage in the Night

It was a warm August evening in Surprise, Arizona and a small group of friends had gathered as they regularly did on Wednesday evenings. This Wednesday was different as we were celebrating my birthday, which was a week earlier but we weren’t able to get together that week. One of my friends had given me one of the Willow Tree Angels named “Courage.” When she gave it to me she told me that it reminded her of me. She told me “To her I was a Woman of Courage.”

None of us knew at that moment how much courage would be required for me to survive what was about to happen that would change my life forever. As we were finishing cake and ice cream I received what would be the most devastating phone call of my life. My oldest son Kristofer, had called asking where I was and how long it would take me to get home. When I questioned why he said, “You just need to come home.” I had a sick feeling in my being and I knew what faced me ahead. I knew that when I arrived home that I would be informed that my youngest son Marc had died, being the first Navy SEAL killed in Iraq.

Something inside of me knew when Marc left my home in March of 2006 that he wouldn’t be returning and that would be the last time I would see him. I’m not a fearful, worrisome type of person and I didn’t dwell on that while he was deployed, but somehow I knew. Eighteen months has passed since that dreadful day and as I pondered what part of my trip to Iraq to write about, courage came to mind again. I have wanted to make a journey to Iraq since Marc died, but knew I wanted to wait for a time when the journey would be safe. Realistically I figured that journey would be many years down the road.

When Move America Forward began to make preparations for our third cross country tour this year, “Honoring Heroes at the Holidays,” I was excited to learn that we would be collecting Christmas Cards to send to the troops and that our Rallies in 40 cities would have one goal, to honor our troops who have served and our serving. This would be my third tour with MAF and I was honored to have the privilege to be able to publicly thank our troops, my heroes and encourage others to do the same.

I knew there was something else in the works beside the Tour and when I heard that there was a possibility of a Press embed and that I might actually be able to deliver some of the Cards to our heroes in Iraq, I was amazed! It would have been easy when I was asked if I wanted to go to say no and bow out and stay home, everyone would understand. After all it still is a war zone and my son had been killed there. It took strength and courage to make the decision to travel to the war zone where my son gave up his life. Courage that was given to me from God above.

We had no idea where we would be embedded in Iraq, but I knew that if by some odd chance the doors opened for us to go, I needed to be there. I knew personally what our troops had given and sacrificed for me, for you, for this nation and I wanted to personally thank our men and women who were willing to give their lives for this country they so loved and believed in. I left it in God’s hands and asked him to open the doors if I was supposed to be there and slam them if I wasn’t.

Courage was my companion the night I boarded the C-130 from Kuwait to Baghdad that purposely made the craziest cork-screw landing you can imagine to avoid being shot down by terrorists. It took courage to fly over the city of Baghdad in a Blackhawk as we looked down on the city where Sadaam once reigned! It took courage the night we rode in the streets of Baghdad in the MRAP knowing that I had been instructed not to travel by ground because of the IED dangers! It took courage to put on my body armor and Kevlar and go out on patrol in the Muhalla and walk the streets with the 1-4 Cav unit that we were embedded with! It took courage to stumble to the command post in the middle of the night in my “jammies” to find out what we should do after the explosion that woke me from a dead sleep and even moved the air around my face. It took courage to tell Marc’s heroic story to 350 troops ready to head home for R&R. It took courage to board the Blackhawk in the middle of the night on a secret flight to be taken to Camp Marc Lee, the base in western Iraq named in my son’s honor. It took courage that night to walk where Marc walked his last steps, to see where he spent his last night, to smell what he smelled, to see what he saw and to embrace what he embraced.

Yet it was in the depth of the night there at Camp Marc Lee that I was reminded what real courage is. Real courage was what our troops, my heroes face everyday. Real courage is being willing to give up your right to every thing you want for your future, your memories from your past and even if need be your life to make a better place for others. Real courage is facing the enemy and being willing to pay the ultimate price of your life because you value others lives more important than your own. Real courage is using your voice, your actions, your life, to impact the world and make a difference. Real courage is selfless, noble, true, humble, right, and honorable. That is the description of our men and women serving in Iraq. I witnessed it first hand. I had the blessing to share Christmas and thank thousands of our troops while I was in Iraq and numerous times they would look at me and say “It’s my honor” “I love what I do” or “No, thank you.”

Our Main stream media continues to try and discredit our troops and make them out to be murders and rapists. They distort the statistics and try to brainwash us. I saw first hand on my recent trip to Iraq the moral excellence, integrity and the compassion with which our troops serve. I saw courage displayed in it’s finest forms.

It’s now time for Americans at home to display that same courage. Courage to stand up for what you believe in and know is right. Courage, to get out of your lazy boy and make a difference. Courage, to call or write your Senator or Congressman. Courage, to write a letter to your editor. Courage to expose the lies and confront liberal groups such as Code Pink, ANSWER, MoveOn.org and others who support terrorists and radical communistic ideals. Courage, to vote! Courage to hold the media accountable to tell the successes of our troops and what they have accomplished. Courage, to defend the defenseless! Courage to replace our apathy with action.

My Willow Tree Angel of Courage sits on my desk with her arms lifted high and fists clenched in victory, as if to say, YES!  As a nation that was founded on God’s principles we need to raise our hands high in courage and fight against those who want to remove our freedoms and rights. We need to raise our hands high and thank the one who created us and blessed us to be born in this amazing nation.

8 Responses to “Courage in the Night”

  1. Mike Whetstone says:

    Debbie Lee,
    I saw the story about Marc on the news today and read your web site, I was very moved. Marc is truely a hero of all time. I know you are so very proud of him and I am very sorry for your loss. I’m an old Navy vet from another time, Viet Nam. I wrote something when I was trying to understand my thoughts. I would like to share it with you in the hopes it may bring some comfort. All heros return home, some in body and some in spirit. God Bless.

    WARRIORS

    This world will always have wars
    Wars will always need warriors to face our enemies
    Yesterday they were bagging groceries or finished high school
    Today their mind and body is trained in discipline and the art of war
    Tomorrow they are our warriors and heroes
    No one ever returns as they were

    You suppress your fears and trust your training
    You do and see things that you never imagined
    Your world becomes smaller and the big picture becomes small and blurry
    Now your reason to fight is to survive and protect your buddies
    It’s the only life you seem to remember, then one day you depart
    No one ever returns as they were

    When you depart you are expected to erase this part of your life
    You return to your home and family, your safety zone
    Your family embraces all of you, both the old and the new
    You return to your old hangouts and try to look like you never left
    You realize you no longer fit, everyone seems so shallow and insignificant
    You know everyone here is the same, it’s you that has changed
    No one ever returns as they were

    This is a small part of your life but it owns a large part of your memories
    Some can never leave it behind and relive it the rest of their lives
    Some appear to leave it behind but never forget their private reminders
    Some return with less than they left with and must cope with their daily reminder
    Some return only in spirit and are forever our heroes
    However you return be forever proud of what you gave
    No one ever returns as they were

    Mike Whetstone
    An old Viet Nam vet

  2. Dear Mrs. Lee,
    Since I keep a blog, I know a lot of people look and few comment. Your son Marc\’s story is moving and glad you are responding in this way. It truly honors Marc. I just wanted to encourage you that your site, your comments, your deeds and Marc\’s letter have more of an effect that you know.
    So be encouraged and keep up the battle.
    In Christ,
    Dennis McCutcheon
    Viet Nam era veteran – I have friends that were treated dishonorably returning home from \’our war.\’ Let\’s commit to giving honor to our current generation of warriors – thank you for your part.
    http://dennis51.wordpress.com

  3. Ralph Sprovier says:

    Debbie, I an the old reservist friend of Bev Perlsons. We first met in Steering, Illinois at the Stop Gimto forum and more recently at both stops of the TEA Party Express. I never seem to have a dry eye whether we met in person or I come here on line.

    It’s easy for anyone to see why your son was a selfless hero,the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.

    God Bless you and may He watch over our Brave Troops .

  4. Greg Tolmoff says:

    Debbie,
    I was in the hangar today during the Change of Command while you were giving out thank you cards to all of the troops. We hugged. I have been here for 5 months, and that was the most sobering thing that has happened to me thus far. You and your family have sacrificed so much for our nation that words can not even begin to thank you. Your son is not forgotten, thanks to you carrying his torch of wisdom beyond his years. His story will never be forgotten, for his buddies are alive because of him to tell it. Thank you, Debbie, for reminding us that there are those at home that have not forgotten us either. God Bless you and continue to watch over your family and the greatest country in the world!

  5. admin says:

    Thank you Greg please write to me at contact@americasmightywarriors.org with your email.

  6. Mendoza says:

    I just finishing watching Debbie on the news this morning. it was refreshing to see a Family’s view on the war in Iraq/military that has lost a loved one. I read Marc’s letter and Debbie’s blog.
    For Marc to write about Glory and Debbie to have received the “Courage Angel” and present the message for our troops is an act of “Glorius Courage”. I would like to thank Marc, Debbie, their Family, all of the other Families, friends and Soldiers for their kindless acts.
    You look at the World today and our Miltary the younger generation has our backs. That is why I am thankful to have seen Debbie this morning. Why does the media not show more insightful, positive stories on the Military, the younger generation, our community, State and our Nation? There are so many positives. Everywhere you turn the media shows negatives in politics, economy, immigration, education, healthcare and crime. Why can’t the media report on the positives in the political system, economy, immigration, eduction, healthcare and report good old fashioned wholesome American stories? If the Families of fallen soldiers can have the attitude of Debbie our society as a whole needs to take a look at this website and the stories of Marc and Debbie.
    God Bless our Troops, their families and friends and the United States of America.
    Marc and Debbies story makes me proud to be an American.

  7. Mary Syron says:

    Dear Debbie,
    I just finished reading American Sniper by Chris Kyle and this is where I learned Marc’s story. I just want to tell you how much I love and respect the military who protect our freedoms. Your son was indeed a HERO and while you have to be the most proud Mom on earth you also have to have the biggest broken heart.
    From what I’ve read Marc was a wonderful, brave, and dedicated man who loved his God. When I learn about someone being taken before his time I’m always reminded of the words in a song by Vince Gill called The Meaning of Life. The words go like this: …. and when he died the preacher cried saying he’s the lucky one. He’s walking hand in hand with God’s only son.
    May that loving God watch after you and your family and the military who protect us and this great nation.
    Mary
    Saint Louis, MO

  8. John Miller says:

    Hi Debbie,

    Thank You for all that you have given in every aspect and Thank Your Son Mark for Giving All for our Freedoms. This election year I hope that as a Country we will make Mark proud
    Aloha,
    John Miller
    Also a Parent with a Child that has left us far too early

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